What's New?: Model Projects and Opportunities

I believe I may have mentioned this yesterday in the article regarding Sara coming back to work for Skylar. I told you that I am working on some new projects with Sara and was going to tell you more about them in a new post. So, here it is. As I've mentioned several times I recently started my Ebay business and so far it is going very well. The other day I was taking pictures of clothing and other things that I'm going to be listing for sale and the idea of having them modeled came to me.

I will be sending the items to Sara to be modeled when she finishes she will send the photos to me and I will be posting them either on Ebay or here on the blog. Anyone who is interested can purchase the items through the blog, or they can bid on the ones they want through my Ebay listings. Once the items are sold Sara will be shipping them out to the buyers from her location. This is a paid opportunity. If the item she models sells depending on how much it sells for I will give her a percentage of the earnings. Obviously, the more I make on an item, the more I'm going to be able to offer. This includes both the items sold on Ebay and here on the blog.

I am looking for more models, but I need to make sure I find girls who are going to be reliable. I don't want to risk having my stuff stolen and more importantly I need to make sure they get to the buyers and on time. I won't be listing the items until I have the pictures though. So, there is going to be a contract involved for anyone who wants to participate. Before I send you anything to be modeled you will need to sign, date and mail in the contract. The contract tells me you agree to model whatever is sent to you and that you will either return the items to me after you have finished with them or ship them to the buyer otherwise you will need to pay for them. Since you will need to pay the shipping charges I will reimburse you once I get the package back or when the buyer receives theirs. Hopefully, I won't have any problems, this is paid opportunity so really it would be stupid if anyone chose to take advantage. I don't know why anyone would want to blow their chances of making some money.

I'm also planning to sell quantities of items and when that happens the model will get to keep one for herself. If there are any left over that don't sell I will send them to other models as gifts for their hard work and dedication. There are other projects I am working on for models, once I've figured out all of the details I will be letting you know more about them. I have a big announcement that I will be posting within the next few days, it is possible I might be posting it this evening. Be sure to check back here by 10:00 eastern standard time to see if it is up.

What's New?: For Skylar

New content is here and there is lots more to come! After months of brainstorming the ideas finally came to me. Here is what you can expect to see:

New Stuff

What's New?- You already started reading this column. There are different sections and in each I will be updating you on my life, the social scene (not just my social scene, this will include models and other contributors), friends and family, Ebay, models, opportunities, contests etc.

Trend Report- I will be keeping up on all the latest trends in fashion, hair and makeup, and more and will share them with you here.

Runway Review

A Look at Fashion- All things relating to the world of fashion.

Smart Styling- Wardrobe styling ideas.

Fashion Spotlight- I will be searching the Internet for stylish guys and gals and will feature them here.

Skylars Shopping Guide

Top Bloggers- I will be spotlighting my favorite blogs and their editors.

Returning Columns

I will be keeping Hottie of The Day and Girl Crush and am also bringing back Supermodel of the Week and Star Style, people really seemed to like those.

I'm still brainstorming there is much more to come in the near future, if you ever have any ideas you are welcome to share them with me. I'm trying to come up with some beauty columns, suggestions would be great. A few of these columns will be getting new names and I'm going to be brainstorming ideas and taking polls so that you can help me come up with them. The new columns will be starting soon, some could start as early as today. Feedback would be great. Please let me know which ones you like and don't like. Your opinions matter to me.

What's New?: In My Life

I'm delighted to be back to work on Skylar. It has been a long and trying year for me and my writers block didn't make it any less discouraging. There have been times when I would have the urge to write and I would open up the WordPad and sit there for hours staring at the screen trying to think of things to write about. There were no words and no inspiration what-so-ever.

Grammar has also been a major struggle for me and I have noticed that my writing style just hasn't been the way it use to be. This is something that I have been aware of for a while though. I honestly haven't been all that satisfied with my writing skills for the past few years. I know that I can do better and I know there are plenty more words in my vocabulary then the ones I have been using.

It's never been about perfection, I know I'm not the best writer in the world and I accept that. Although, I try to use good grammar and proofread as much as possible I am by no means a genius. Spellcheck is a very good friend of mine for the most part, but I do make mistakes often and it is not unlike me to overlook them. Truth be told, I think mistakes can be a great thing. From my experience I have found that making them has helped me grow and learn in so many ways.

Obviously, there are quite a few errors on this blog and believe me they have been pointed out to me by several people, some more critical than others. I don't mean to brag, but writing is something that comes naturally to me it's not perfect by all means, but I can write. Editing is where I have a hard time and I normally would have someone help in that area, but I'm on my own at the moment as far as that goes. I'm pretty good at spotting typos, I do have a tendency to miss them, but once I find them I make the corrections. I don't mind at all if people point them out to me so if you see them let me know.

I try not to be too critical of my work though. Not to sound un-professional, but I think that a few errors here and there aren't a big deal. I have been to numerous blogs that have had a pretty good following and their grammar is so horrible and there are so many typos it's not even funny. The writers of these blogs don't seem to worry too much about fixing them. They can sound pretty moronic, but in a way I admire them for not caring about what other people think. If being illiterate works for them, so be it.

Being presentable is important to me, I want my readers to respect me as a writer and I want them to see that I have a brain. I may make tons of mistakes, but I am no "dummy" and at least I make the effort to try to correct them. At the same time, I try not to worry about pleasing everybody, because at the end of the day it's impossible. No matter what you do or what you say there are always going to be critics who try to bring you down and you can't allow those jerks to discourage you. Fortunately, most of the people I have come in contact with have been super nice and very understanding. Even when they are pointing out typos, they always do it kindly. It feels good to know that they accept me for who I am and that they appreciate my work.

There are a lot of bloggers that I have so much admiration for. I love creative bloggers who aren't afraid to be bold and blatantly honest. Cursing is great as long as it isn't overdone or too trashy sounding, you don't want to be a potty mouth. One of the best things about blogging is getting things off your chest and sometimes cussing is necessary. I'm not talking about blogs where the F*word is the most used, I mean words like Hell and damn. I like the ones that are done in good taste.

Just like the bloggers I admire and respect, I really just want to be myself. I have my own writing style that not everyone will agree with. I have also been known to make up words, don't be surprised to find them here, inventing words is fun for me. Not everyone responds well to them, but that's okay. I'm not trying to be Vogue or anybody else, I really just want to be me.

Something else I have been working on is my vocabulary. I have a tendency to overuse words. So, anyway, however, and, the list goes on and on. I'm sure I have contradicted myself a lot in this post, but I am working on it. One of my favorite things to read is the thesaurus. I know it sounds strange, right? I pick 5 words a day and use them as much as possible, this is something I learned a long time ago from my grandpa. Another issue I have is coming up with good titles and names for columns. Writing exercises help, I write sentences and doing that gets my creative juices flowing. I feel like I'm getting back to my old self and the way I use to write. I'm much more confident about it now. Anyway, it is great to be back!

Model News: Sara Comes Back to Work For Skylar

Many of you are just now getting to know Skylar and aren't familiar with Sara yet. I am very excited to introduce you to this delightful young lady. Sara is from Columbia, South Carolina and is going into her second year of college where she is studying Early Childhood Education. I've been working with her for about 2 years now although Skylar has been on hiatus and she's been on a little break. Out of all of the girls I have worked with she has been my most dedicated, most loyal, most positive, and most enthusiastic of them all. She has also been the most reliable.

I have truly enjoyed working with her. Even though Skylar has had it's struggles and I have not been able to offer a lot of perks (though there are a lot more than people realize), she unlike other girls I've worked with has never given up on me. It hasn't taken off yet, but she still believes in it and it's concept and the message behind it. She gets what I'm trying to accomplish and when she commits to something she follows through with no complaints, no griping and no "diva" attitude. I know when I need something done she's going to come through for me, I can always count on Miss Sara.

Not only is she 100 percent dedicated to Skylar, she is also gorgeous. I always look forward to seeing what she does and she in my opinion has taken some awesome photos. There are a lot of people who seem to agree, I've gotten tons of compliments and positive feedback on her photos. I'm not taking credit for the pictures, the credit goes to both Sara and her sister Liz who does most of the photography. What you get from her photos is a friendly and earthy vibe. She's one of those girls who doesn't need a stitch of makeup, but when she puts it on..."wow"!

It is important to me that models learn how to pose as well as take the kind of pictures I need. I'm not trying to be like Vogue or any other magazine, they are an inspiration, but Skylar is it's own magazine, it's own brand and it has it's own concept. What I consider to be beautiful, stylish or glamorous may not be the same for others. There is a look and a quality I'm looking for and for me Sara has both. People may look at models pictures and not see the same thing I see, I have my own idea of what a model is and to me Sara is "it".

There aren't a lot of good role models out there right now. I think we are starting to see them more in Hollywood, Emma Watson, Emma Roberts, Miranda Cosgrove, Carrie Underwood, Taylor Swift are all great examples. I think Sara has the same qualities these girls have. I am looking for all different forms of beauty whether they be traditional or non-traditional. They can be drop dead gorgeous, cute, exotic, sexy yet classy, voluptuous, petite, curvy, tall, naturally skinny but not Anorexic, average, or even what critics may consider to be "butt" ugly the list goes on and on. It's not all about what is on the outside, it is also about "inner" beauty. Although, I'm not trying to be a copycat, I am no different than any other magazine or company, we each have a look that we want. Sara is the whole package, she's got the looks, the brains, the passion and everything else I'm searching for in my models.


Things to know about Sara

Sara is very outgoing and loves to laugh. She is obviously easily entertained because she claims that she laughs more than she breathes. She always seems to be in good spirits, she's just happy about life.

Her career goal is to either become a teacher and would love to teach Kindergarten or Special Education classes.

She volunteers, knows Spanish and Latin, and she is a skinny "Minnie" who loves to eat.

She believes in love, hope, faith and God and also believes in taking risks, she refuses to be the "old lady" who regrets what she does, when she is in her 80's.

Coming Up...

Sara is getting ready to get back to work for me here in a few weeks, she will be working on some projects for the new content and Ebay business. I will be telling you all about these projects within the next few hours or so. I really can't wait for you all to get to know this girl, you are going to be seeing a lot of her very soon! 

Sara's Pics



I love this one, because it shows a different side to her.
I think she looks"super" hot in this pic.






 

Up Way Too Early!

I was woken up this morning at 2:44 by my little darling Gigi. I actually don't mind getting up early, but that is way too early. I normally get up anywhere between 4:00 and 5:00, sometimes 3:30. It really depends on when I get to bed. Last night I went to bed around 9:30, I haven't gone to bed that early in about 5 years. My sleep schedule also effects the cats, the earlier I go to bed the earlier they wake me up. My problem is once I'm up, I'm up. To top it all off, I go to make my coffee and there was no coffee. Not off to a good start today. 





Good thing she's cute.

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Shame On You "Lifetime"!

I use to have so much respect for this network, even though their movies are pretty cheesy I still love watching them, they are one of my guiltiest pleasures. I felt this way up until yesterday afternoon when I came across a new reality show called "Dance Moms". I could not believe what I was watching. Little 8 and 9 year old girls wearing the skimpiest not to mention the trashiest looking outfits I have ever seen. I thought Toddlers In Tiaras was bad, but this show takes the cake! These girls were wearing more makeup than the clowns in the circus, they were gyrating around on the stage, rolling around on the floor, spreading their legs, shaking their booties like little strippers. I'm surprised there wasn't a pole on the stage, there might as well have been. And, the worst part about it was the coach and most of the kids parents were totally okay with it. They acted like it was no big deal. The coach's big thing was the girls love what they are doing and they were having fun. Well, of course they love doing that stuff, they don't know any better. They don't understand that they are being taught to dance and dress like little "hoochies".

There were 2 moms who were not pleased with their outfits or the routine, I was glad to see someone confront the coach and to know that I wasn't the only one who was appalled by the whole thing. However, I have to question why they weren't aware of what was going on in their children's dance class and I have to wonder if they were just trying to make themselves look like good caring mothers because they were on camera. You never know with stage moms, they will say anything that will paint a better picture of them so they can stay in the spotlight or keep their kids in the spotlight.

I don't mean to sound preachy, but the thing is I adore children. So, if there is something going on that I think is wrong when it comes to them, I will take a stand against it. I will always fight for children. They are an inspiration to me, I hate to see them growing up so quickly and their innocence being stripped away from them. I'm not a parent yet, but I know that if I was I would want to keep them innocent for as long as I could. Kids bring so much joy and laughter to the world and they have those gigantic imagination. They are also vulnerable and impressionable which is why it is important for them to have good role models who will teach them right from wrong. We are responsible for teaching them their morals and values so that they don't end up going down the wrong path.

It doesn't matter whether you are a parent, a sibling, an aunt or uncle, a teacher, a coach, or a friend, we all know a child and we have to guide them in the right direction. I'm not saying you should tell people how to raise their kids, although there are some parents who could use a wake up call. Kids don't just get ideas from what they hear, actions speak louder than words. We should be their heroes not "Hollywood", they need to be able to look up to the people they know and love in "real" life.

I just don't understand how parents think. Do they not see that putting them in those skimpy clothes and allowing them to dance like that and flirt with male judges who are in their mid 30s is disgusting? Do they not get that the message they are giving to these girls is wrong? They are teaching them that girls who show lots of skin and dance like strippers are what guys like. Yes sex does sell, but not when it comes to innocent children. These adults have obviously not been paying attention otherwise they would know that promiscuity is a big problem and that kids as young as 8 years old are having intercourse. Do they not wonder why teen pregnancy is on the rise?

Maybe I'm wrong, but I believe what I saw yesterday afternoon was soft core child pornography and I believe any kind of child pornography is illegal in this country. Am I right? If that is the case, which it is regardless of what anyone says, then why aren't any of these people in jail? Why aren't any of the executives at Lifetime being held accountable for airing that filth on their network? In my opinion I think they are just as guilty. It's just not right! I have decided that I will be boycotting Lifetime, even if that means I have to give up Project Runway. I will not support a channel that exploits children in that manner. Shame on you Lifetime!

New Stuff On Ebay!

I have listed some new items on Ebay today. Check them out...

These fun little dangle feather earrings from Forever 21 starting at .75 cents.

This is a super cool necklace I got last year from Forever 21, so cool in fact that even Gigi loves it. She is so nosy, both she and my other cat Bridget were all up in my business while I was getting packages together. The necklaces starting price is $6.00.

This cute heart charm necklace also from Forever 21 and very cute. One of the hearts has writing on it that says "I Love You". It is at $5.00.

Just a nice little photo album that I found in a drawer that I forgot I had. It's never been used, as good as new and in very good condition. Not sure how long I have had it, but it's definitely usable and is great for standing on top of your desk at work or on a shelf in your home. You can also hang it on your wall, or a bulletin or any kind of board. I started it at $1.00, there are some scuffs on the back, the back is made of either felt or velvet can't tell which, it's soft and you now how that kind of material attracts lent and lent can be hard to get off. It's not too bad though.

Another cute photo album with a very inspirational message on the front. It says Dream and Wonderful things Happen. I've had this one for a while as well, have never used it and it's in mint condition. Again, it is as good as new. I started it at $2.50.

You can find my listings here incase you are interested in any of them http://shop.ebay.com/skylarmagazine/m.html?_nkw=&_armrs=1&_from=&_ipg=25.

Girl Crush: Drew Barrymore

Is it just me or does Drew look absolutely amazing? I'm really loving her red hair, but I think I will always prefer her as a blond though. Either way she is a very beautiful woman and seems to becoming more beautiful with age. Whatever, both she and Elijahs secrets are they are working well for them. Anyways, I guess it's former child star day. It just seems like a lot of the kids I grew up with are growing into very attractive adults.

Old School Drew

I think this is my all time favorite

haircuts. I can see it making

a comeback someday.



ADORABLE!! Who didn't love
little Gertie?



Hottie of The Day: Elijah Wood

Gosh! I am still so in love with this guy. What is it about him? He's always been a cutie, he's all grown up and sexier than ever.

Old School Eli...



From the movie, Forever Young. Awww!!



What Is Endometriosis? Learn the Facts and What Has Helped Me.

Endometriosis is a disease which causes painful flare ups in the pelvic area during a womans menstrual cycle. Just like with any condition each case is different, some are more serious than others. The pain from this disease can be so severe to the point where it can prevent someone from doing their normal routines and even getting out of bed can be difficult. It can be debilitating and when you aren't able to do the things you normally would, it can really bring you down. When the flare ups are so intense some people may have to take pain medication such as Darvocet or Hydrocodine. Darvocet is no longer on the market though, that was the one that my doctor gave me for mine.

I was diagnosed about 5 years ago. I had been having problems with kidney stones and was still having pain even after the kidney stones were gone. I went through many tests, I felt like a human pin cushion at one point, because of being stuck by so many needles (and I hate needles). They tested me for an ulcer and other things and after all of the tests I had gone through they found nothing, that was until I went to the OBGYN. That's when they discovered I had Endometriosis and found cysts on my ovaries. I ended up having surgery where they removed the cysts.

A lot of times they will put the patient on some sort of birth control, I started out with the Depo Shot, which I hated! The side effects were horrible. I was on it for 6 months and had the worst hot flashes and night sweats as well as mood swings. The only great thing about it was not having to have a period for 6 months. After the Depo Shot they put me on regular birth control pills, but they made me sick so they put me on the patch. None of these seemed to work for me, so I am not on any of them at the moment. I actually think they just made it worse.

This is something I believe I have had probably since I was 12, but I never knew about it until I was diagnosed with it in my early twenties. I missed a lot of school, nobody really knew about this disease and didn't understand why I missed so much. Whenever I wasn't there, my friends would joke "Sarah's on her period again". I have struggled with jobs and have had a hard time keeping them. There are times when I just couldn't go. I have always tried not to allow it to get in the way of my life, but it can be that painful.

I did a lot better with my last job, I did miss a lot of work because of it, but compared to past jobs definitely not as much call offs. I decided that I wasn't going to allow this disease to get in the way of my life. There are times where you absolutely just can't get there, but for the most part I tried to suck it up as much as possible. It was when the pain was so severe that I had to be on strong pain medication when I would not be able to go.

This year has been tough, it's probably a good thing I haven't found a job yet, because I think because of how severe my flare ups have been I would have missed a lot of work and I would like to be able to get to the point where I can completely dedicate myself to an employer. There are a lot of people out there who do not understand this disease or how painful it can be. They will tell you they understand, but the truth is they don't, because they aren't in my body and don't feel the pain I go through when it occurs. Even people who have the same disease don't always understand, because theirs isn't as severe. Each person is different, like I said. Some people think when I can't leave the house, or can't go do the things I want or need to do it's because of laziness. That is simply not the case and for those of you who can relate, you know it's not either.

I am optimistic. I recently found something for my pain and it has helped a lot and not just with that. I got tired of prescribed medication from doctors, because number one they won't always give them to you when you need them and to be honest I'm tired of having to make an appointment when I already know the answer, it's just a waste of time and money. I admit, those meds are great and when I have to be on them I enjoy the loopiness for the first couple of days. However, it does get overwhelming and they do make me groggy after a while and I always wake up feeling like I have a massive hangover, even worse than what I would get from alcohol. Plus your body does naturally become dependant on these meds and there are withdrawals everytime you come off of them even if you have only taken them for 3-5 days. They also bring you down by the 3rd or 4th day and they make you feel like a zombie. I could never be a drug addict, I would hate to feel that way on a daily basis. The first couple of days are fun, but I wouldn't want to make a hobby out of it.

So, I did some research and I discovered something so much better and just as powerful and it has been more effective. It gives me the same enjoyable loopy feeling and kills the pain. Only, it doesn't make me feel like a zombie or like I'm having a massive hangover when I wake up. In fact, I actually took it one morning when I was having a hangover from drinking a few too many the night before. After taking this stuff along with a cup of coffee, my hangover was gone! It's called Valerian Root and it works just as good as Darvocet and you can find it at your local health food store. Try your local GNC or Health Foods Unlimited.

Valerian Root comes in capsules or drops which you can put in tea. The capsules are usually 500-530 mgs and you can take 2-3 one hour before bedtime. If you are not a tea drinker like me and don't like the idea of drinking something that tastes nasty you would probably prefer the capsules. When I'm having a bad flare up I use it a little more intensively. It does say that if you are going to take it that way you should consult your doctor, but they give you that warning with anything and I think you pretty much know your body and what it can take. However, if you aren't sure it is always a good idea.

I started out with a genaric brand which were 500 mgs, I took 2 in the morning and 2 in the evening before bedtime. It doesn't make me drowsy so much as it does loopy which I love, because I hate feeling like I could fall over at any minute. The great thing about it is once I'm asleep I sleep through the night and I have been going to bed earlier though so it has helped my insomnia. I have just started taking the non-generic brand Premium Herbal "Nature's Way" 530 mg capsules and I like them better. I actually take 3 of those in the morning and 3 at night and my menstrual cramps are gone! The generic brand is 500 mgs but says you should only take 2 before bedtime, "Natures Way" is stronger with more mgs and it says take 3. The generic brand only offers 50 capsules and it was at $11.99, where "Natures Way" gives you 100 capsules and it was only $8.99. So, I would recommend the less expensive and more effective one that offers more over the generic brand.

This medicine is used for menstrual cramps, but it also promotes restful sleep and can help those who are leading a hectic lifestyle. It has a relaxing and soothing effect on the nervous system, so if you are really stressed out with things going on in your life it will help calm you. I have also been having issues with swollen feet and ankles, it happens whenever I eat anything real salty or greasy, and the Valerian has helped that as well. I was retaining water and having trouble with circulation, but it has helped with that also. It has 60 mgs of calcium also and I can tell, because my hair, nails and skin feel so much better. Everything feels better, my moods, my aches and pains, everything.

You do need to be cautious though. For me it has almost the same effect as the Darvocet, it makes me almost just as loopy. There are myths out there that say they are used as a psychodelic, but from my experience it's a load of bull. If it were that potent it would not be an over the counter medication, it would be considered a narcotic. If you are dumb enough to want to buy anything for the purpose of tripping out than you got a problem.

I can't believe some of the things I have read while doing my research. There was a guy who admitted he took more 30 of the Valerian capsules and he was surprised when he accidentally OD'ed. Really??? Keep in mind this guys goal was not to kill pain, his goal was to get high and he wasn't just taking Valerian Root, he was taking it on top of other things like "shrooms" and "acid". Obviously, he didn't learn his lesson because he is still doing it and it's as if he thinks it's hilarious. I fail to see the humor there, although it is kind of funny how stupid people can be. The truth is you can become dependant on this stuff just like with anything else you take whether it be a narcotic or an over the counter medicine or even something like Advil. It's not something you want to take 24:7 and you definitely don't want to take them like their candy. It's common sense really.

Although, I don't just take it for my Endometriosis, I only take it when it is necessary. If I'm feeling a little on edge, or I feel like I'm not going to be able to sleep or if I'm swollen I will take it. Like I said before, I do take it more during the flare ups. Once my flare ups are over I go back to taking it when necessary. It's basically like taking Advil only it does have a little bit of a kick to it. There have been some cases of liver and kidney damage with Valerian Root, but I think that is true with anything you take. You can get damage from Benedril, Advil or Tylenol as well, but because it is a bit more potent you should be a little extra cautious when taking it. You should also avoid alcohol and shouldn't drive or operate machinery while taking it.

For more information about Valerian Root go to gnc.com or healthfoodsunlimited.com. You can look it up on wikipedia just to learn more about the root and where it comes from, but I was not entirely impressed with the information it gave. A lot of it seemed to be hearsay, I didn't find it to be completely factual. You can also ask the employers who work in these stores, they are the ones who helped me understand it better. I find them to be more resourceful than the Internet. If you suffer from painful flare ups like I do, or just want to get a good nights sleep I do recommend this stuff. I'm glad I found it.


Have you tried Valerian Root? What do you think of this product?

Want to know more about Endometriosis here is a link that might help give you the answers you are looking for about symptoms, treatments etc http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Endometriosis.

Celebrities who have Endometriosis:

Julianne Hough along with fellow Dancing With the Stars celeb Lacey Schwimmer both stuggle with the disease...

as well as Padma Lakshmi.

I Can't Stand Ebay Know-it-Alls

As you all know I recently got into the Ebay selling business and sold all of the items that I listed except my uncles computer. I pretty much get how the system works, I get that in order to build a good repoire you have to be professional and ship things out in a timely fashion. My goal is to get all positive feedback, because I do want to have a successful Ebay business. I can totally understand how someone would get frustrated when their expectations are not met and I am really trying my best. I love and very much welcome any advice that will help me, but one thing I can't stand is an Ebay "know-it-all". People who think they are Ebay experts try to act like they are better than everyone else and try to bring the little guys down, really irritate me.

I have Endometriosis and for those of you who aren't familliar with this medical condition, it is a very painful disease that causes menstrual flare ups, if you who have it you know how it is. Well, I have gotten hit with one and it's only the beginning, Aunt Flow hasn't even arrived yet so I can't even imagine what it's going to be like when she finally gets here. Let's just say the timing couldn't be any worse. It often gets to the point where I have to be on pain medication and it can prevent me from going anywhere. I know there are a few people who read my blog who have other painful diseases so I am sure they understand what I am going through.

This comes at a time when I am trying to get my Ebay business off the ground and I am working very hard to get my buyers their packages out to them on time. I think that I have handled my situation very professionally, I contacted both of my buyers and explained my situation to them both. One of the buyers, not so understanding. I would be surprised if she ever buys from me again, but you know how it goes "you win some, you lose some", right?

After I contacted her about this, she wrote back saying buyers expect to have their packages shipped on time even if the seller is not "feeling well". Well duh! You don't have to be an Ebay "pro" to know this. It's not as if I have a tummy ache or a cold, I have a very painful disease. I do get these horrible flare ups often, but not on a regular basis and some are worse than others. Most of the time I would ship on time, I am a first time seller and I understand the concept of first impressions being everything. However, what can I do about it? I'm probably more frustrated about the situation than she is.

She also told me that I should put something on my Ebay profile that lets people know of my condition and that it can prevent me from shipping on time so that buyers can decide if the item is worth waiting for. That would be like putting that on a job application. If you put on your job application you have a medical condition that can prevent you from working, are you going to get hired? There are understanding employers out there, but it is likely they are going to want to give it to someone who they think is going to be able to be there for them. It would be like throwing myself under the bus, I know that even though I have this disease I would try to be there as much as I could be and that it would be rare if I were to call off, otherwise I would not apply.

I just don't think Ebay buyers would want to read about it. Plus I'm a new seller, I deserve a chance to show people I can do this, so I don't want to blow it because of one unfortunate situation. At least I am taking the time to communicate with my buyers, rather than leave them hanging and wondering where their item is. I think that says a lot about my character. I think I'm showing her that I care and that I am trying to be a good Ebayer. 

She also suggested that because of my condition and not "always" being able to leave the home that maybe Ebay wasn't for me. I could totally, understand if I wasn't a first time seller and I had a lot of negative feedback, but come on, give me a break! I'm no different than a lot of other people who have lost their jobs and are struggling. Ebay has helped a lot of people who are in my situation. It didn't stop there though.

She also complained when I asked her to send me her shipping address. Being new to selling there are a few things I was unaware of such as where to locate their shipping addresses. I know you can find them on Pay Pal, but she told me I could easily find them on Ebay as well. Well, I did find it on Pay Pal, but for the life of me I couldn't find her address on Ebay. I can't print labels because my printers not working, so I have to make my own right now which really doesn't seem like a big deal to me. Before technology people made their own labels all the time.

I asked her to send me her shipping address so that I could get her package ready to be shipped and I was going to try to get it shipped before Friday. Had she just emailed me her address I could have had it ready by now and possibly shipped it out today, but she had to get an attitude and sent me on a scavenger hunt to find it. Not only did she get an attitude with me about it, she is treating me like I am the biggest moron on Earth. Just because I couldn't figure out where to find her freaking address. Come on lady!!!

It's as if she's trying to purposely make the situation a bigger problem than it actually is, like she's trying to create a bigger problem just so she can leave negative feedback. Look, I understand being professional. I've been running my own magazine for 8 years and yes I made a lot of mistakes over the years. Isn't that how you learn? Life is one big obstacle, making mistakes is the best way to get through them, at least that's what I have learned through my experiences in life.

I just don't understand why people have to be such "know-it-alls". All positive feedback does not equal perfection. I'm sure when she first started using it, she didn't know everything there was to know and even some of the simplest things can be hard to find. I know that I can and will have a successful Ebay business and I will learn, but things do happen that we can't always control.

I guess I will just have to prove her wrong.

Girl Crush: Lucy Hale (Pretty Little Liars)

I am really into this show and I felt since it is PLL night this would be the appropriate crush to feature.





There are so many gorgeous photos of Ms Hale, I may have to do a part 2 for her in the future.